Home Buyer Tips – Moving With Young Children

Most people approach moving to a new home or apartment  with mixed feelings of excitement, and apprehension.  The prospect of living in a new home is eagerly anticipated, but the prospect of organising and making the move is generally not something to look forward to.  Besides deciding what to move and what to skip, the sheer timing and logistics can be daunting.

There is a lot to look forward to – more space, nicer neighbourhood, better surroundings, maybe a different job and new school. And it is this that points up the really severe disruption that children may have to face.

Fortunately, most of them tend to adapt quite quickly, especially if their mums and dads think about how to help them cope with the emotions and other changes that they will have to face.  But this help with the physical and emotional challenge confronting them needs to start well before removal day.

So, for those people who are new to the experience, here are a few tips to help smooth the way.

Before the Move

  • Get the kids involved in the pre-planning arrangements. Make sure they know exactly when you will be moving.  Avoid them picking up what is going on from odd conversation.  Misunderstanding these may make them worry, so make sure they understand where your family is moving to and that they also understand why you are moving..
  • Be excited – and engage them in your excitement. It’s all too easy to get stressed out with loads of angst before a move.  This is especially so if you are moving to a new town, for new employment or new schooling, but your children will definitely notice those emotions. Staying positive and making sure everything is talked through with them will go a long way to reducing these fears for both them and you. Marking off the date for your move on the family calendar and keep them up to date with all the details to prepare them for the move.

  • Try and arrange for you all to visit your new home.  If not, see if you can fix for an online tour, for example using Skype.  Walking your children through the house, letting them choose their room, and showing them around the area will go a long way to involve them and quieten any fears they may have.  Showing them all the things you like about the house and discuss their likes and dislikes with them so as to change any lingering doubts with excitement.
  • Arrange a ‘farewell’ party for your old home, inviting their friends to join in and arrange ways to stay in touch in the future.

During the Move

  • Try to avoid having to do this in a rush. Leave your kids time to dawdle and reminisce over packing their things. Leave time to let them pack last. Providing them with their own boxes, and helping them to pack will give status to their belongings and make them feel special.
  • If you can, try and have some of their favourite toys or belongings with you in the car.  Keeping these out of the removal van will help with the trip.  And they will have something to keep them occupied while they wait to be able to unpack their own things when you get there.
  • Assign everyone something to do when you arrive. Giving children a simple checklist will encourage their investment in their new house, as well as keeping them occupied while you are getting everything moved in. Letting them unpack their own rooms, or helping with easy chores will help them adjust an feel that they really do ‘belong’.

After the Move

  • Once everyone is reasonably settled in, take everyone on a tour of their new town and local neighbourhood.  Show them all the great things on offer, like parks, bike rides, local bakery and other stores.  Make an effort for you all to meet your new neighbours.  This will all help your children feel at home in ‘their’ new house.
  • Remember that they may need help in adjusting to their new location and that this may mean giving them time and space to do this. Progressively encouraging – but not forcing – them to get involved in the kind of things they previously enjoyed, but in their new location, will also help them meet and interact with new people and make new friends.
  • Don’t, however, le this be at the expense of their old friends. Encourage them to keep in touch, using modern technology and, if possible, even occasional, reciprocal visits.

1 Comment

  1. Rony Mikal

    Really good tips!!!! Moving with children is always difficult as they don’t feel comfortable at new place. So it is really important to make them a part of your home removal. These are very good tips for moving with children.

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